Matt Wickert

Matt fancies himself a philosopher. He likes reading and talking about books and playing guitar. He has a wife, 4 daughters, and a son. Some of them enjoy books; none of them enjoy his guitar playing.

Cincinnati, OH 9 posts

Win Parenting??

I keep seeing these videos pop up; advertisements for a parenting website aimed at dads. Some small child doing something incredible: shooting basketballs through a hoop, skateboarding, tae-kwon-do, playing the drums, and doing them better than most adults can do. The video ends with two words “Win Parenting.” While it’s incredible to see what these young children are able to do, the message being conveyed by these videos is incredibly disturbing. The explicit message is you are a successful parent if your kid can do something you can turn into a viral video. That is winning. That is successful parenting. The language of winning implicitly designates a loser as well as a winner. If your child does not have...

The Dangers of Quality Time

It seems like it's the first question asked or the first piece of advice given whenever marriage comes up. "How often do you go on dates with your spouse?" Sometimes the dating language is used with the kids as well, but more often we speak in terms of "quality time," by which is meant one-on-one time or some activity done with the child that is particularly appreciated. I'm beginning to wonder if this focus on specialness or quality time is beneficial though. What happens when the special becomes commonplace and we have to reach for ever greater heights to achieve the same specialness? But more importantly, what happens to everyday life? Do we begin "living for the weekend" in our...

Missing the Gospel

This post is a follow up to my last post regarding what I see as a widespread problem in American Evangelicalism. Namely, that Evangelicals have missed the boat on the Great Commission. They think they are fulfilling it but their actual practice ends up not producing disciples (students to Jesus who are learning to live their lives from Him) but converts (people who have given mental assent to a set of beliefs). What I'm going to say next may be a bit inflammatory. If you consider yourself an Evangelical it should make you sit up a bit, maybe even bristle up a bit because it touches on something Evangelicals consider foundational. Some of you will dismiss it out of hand...

Missing the Great Commission

Evangelical Christians have a bit of a love affair with the Great Commission. When asked, most of them can spout off the last words that Jesus spoke to his disciples before he apparated into heaven: "Go ye into all the world and make disciples, baptizing them in the name of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit." It's very interesting to me that the rest of the verse is left off in almost every phrasing of the Great Commission that I've heard. "Teaching them to observe everything I have commanded you." The Voice Translation puts it in very clear terms. "Form them in the practices and postures that I have taught you, and show them how to follow the commands I...

Live Life vs YOLO

I just recently lost a friend, Jordan, who died what could be called an “untimely death.” He was 31 years old, had a beautiful family, with his wife and 3 young children, and an impact on the lives of others that belied the mere 31 years he was with us. If you knew Jordan, you knew that one of his big things was the idea Live Life. He signed off his emails with this phrase. His email address contained his own reminder to himself: liveJordanlive. This was a man who wanted to drink in life to its fullest. Now, there is a strain of thought in our society that may misunderstand Jordan’s quest to live life to the fullest...