Sex Ed Fails

A 7-post collection

Birth Management: or the inherent flaws in the term "control"

The term 'birth control' creates an inherent misconception. My husband and I recently learned this sitting in our doctor's office, listening to her say, "If you have a uterus and live sperm you can always get pregnant, even with birth control, even if your tubes are tied, even right after a vasectomy". This news happened to follow the scariest night of my life wherein I took my very first pregnancy test. A year before, I'd gone through the painful ordeal of having an IUD contraceptive device implanted in my uterus. This same doctor assured me then that this device was 99.8% effective at controlling birth, that is, keeping birth from happening. That's like ALL the percents! Yet, there I...

Tea?

Hey everyone! I'm taking a mini hiatus from writing this month. Sorry if you missed me 2 weeks ago, I meant to post a little update but then life got in the way. I'm working on a larger post about birth control but it's taking longer than I thought to gather all the great info out there, so stay tuned for that. In the meantime, I have a cute little video for you comparing consent to drinking tea. Do you guys think consent should be covered in public school health classes? What issues do you think our society struggles with that make consent such a difficult concept? Interested in your thoughts!! See you in April!...

The Purity Problem

Let me begin by affirming that purity, as defined in the bible, is real and life-giving and available to us as a gift from Jesus. Abstinence outside of marriage is something the Bible encourages as a way to avoid sin and therefore be closer to God. That being said, the youth group "purity culture" I grew up with in America around the year 2000 was grievously flawed. I think that those of us who grew up with purity rings and chastity pledges, those of us who spent countless nights praying for our future perfect for us husbands, praying we wouldn't die before our wedding nights, were misled. The culture that grew out of books like Joshua Harris's I Kissed Dating...

Birds and Bees

I was six, my brother Hunter was five. I walked up to my mom in the kitchen one Saturday morning and said, "How do babies get into the mommy's tummy?". Mom looked at me thoughtfully and said, "let's go to the library". There, we checked out a video and book set explaining the birds and the bees. Before writing this, I couldn't have guessed why we call the iconic "sex talk" or the answer to "where do babies come from?", "the birds and the bees". Wikipedia says it's a metaphor for female and male reproductive organs. Birds lay eggs, female humans have eggs, bees pollinate flowers, male humans produce sperm that fertilize eggs. I feel like this analogy would have...

A Touchy Subject

Joseph Gordon-Levitt is one of my favorite feminists. (Because feminist is a controversial word, I'll give you my definition now. Feminist: someone who believes women are people and they deserve the same rights and considerations that men have. Someone who notices and fights back against sexism. This can be an aspect of someone's belief system without being their entire identity). Anyway, back to JGL, the actor. He wrote, directed, and starred in a film called Don Jon back in 2013.  It's a clever, heartfelt, very raw commentary on masturbation and its relationship to porn. In the movie, this hot, charismatic, masculine, guy is addicted to looking at porn and masturbating. It gets so bad that he even starts looking at...